Becky G: Cheating & People Pleasing
Becky G opens up about her journey from providing for her family at age 16 to navigating betrayal in a public relationship. She discusses overcoming people-pleasing patterns, choosing to work through infidelity with her partner, and finding empowerment through therapy and personal growth.
Summary
In this candid interview, Becky G reveals intimate details about her personal and professional journey. Growing up in Inglewood with 19 cousins on her mother's side, she started working at nine years old to help support her family after they lost their home and moved into her grandparents' converted garage. By 16, she had become the sole provider for her family while dealing with her father's addiction issues.
The conversation delves deeply into her experience with a very public betrayal by her long-term partner, whom she had been with since age 19. Rather than immediately leaving, she chose to take time away from the relationship to work on herself through individual, family, and couples therapy. She explains how the experience forced her to examine her patterns of chronic people-pleasing and self-sacrifice that stemmed from being the eldest daughter in an unstable household. She describes feeling vulnerable to seeking father figures in the industry due to her complicated relationship with her own father.
Becky G discusses how growing up around her father's infidelity initially made her determined to 'out-dad' her father by becoming a better provider and protector. However, when faced with betrayal in her own relationship, she had to confront generational trauma and decide whether to repeat patterns or break them. After extensive therapy and personal work, she and her partner chose to rebuild their relationship on new terms, viewing it as a completely new relationship rather than trying to return to what was before.
Throughout her career in the music industry, she has advocated for female collaboration over competition, sharing stories of how she and other Latina artists like Karol G and Anitta worked together behind the scenes, sharing resources and supporting each other in a male-dominated industry. She emphasizes the importance of therapy, setting boundaries, and learning to prioritize her own needs while still maintaining her generous spirit.
About this episode
Join Alex in the studio for an interview with Becky G! For the first time ever, Becky opens up about the state of her relationship, what it was like navigating a public cheating scandal, and the nuance that comes with truly being a strong woman. She also talks about stepping into her father’s role in her family, unlearning people pleasing tendencies, and how there’s always room for more than one woman at the top. Enjoy!
Key Insights
- Becky G became the sole financial provider for her family by age 16 while navigating her father's addiction issues
- She describes experiencing chronic people-pleasing and panic attacks as physical manifestations of childhood trauma before gaining conscious awareness
- Growing up as the eldest of four children in an unstable household forced her to develop a high emotional intelligence but also parentified her at a young age
- When betrayed by her long-term partner, she chose to remove herself from all relationships to examine her patterns rather than make an immediate decision
- She argues that empowerment isn't about being perfect but about living in your truth and being present for the full spectrum of experiences
- Her experience with public betrayal forced her to distinguish between making decisions for herself versus making decisions based on others' expectations
- She believes that after betrayal, relationships can never return to what they were before, but can become something new and potentially better
- Growing up around her father's infidelity made her vulnerable to seeking father figures in the music industry
- She and other female Latin artists collaborated behind the scenes by sharing makeup artists, stylists, and resources to support each other's careers
- She describes the music industry as rewarding chronic people-pleasing behavior, which reinforced unhealthy patterns from her childhood
- She emphasizes that wanting to save a relationship isn't enough - there must be alignment and effort from both partners
- She views her current self as a collaboration between Becky G (the confident performer) and Rebecca (the vulnerable, intimate side)
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