The SECRET to Kicking Ass and Achieving Your Full Potential | Sarah Robb O'Hagan on Impact Theory
Sarah Robb O'Hagan, a marketing executive and CEO of Flywheel, discusses her career marked by multiple failures and reinventions, emphasizing that resilience, humility, and vulnerability are key to achieving peak performance. She outlines specific behavioral traits—openness to new experiences, humility, personal drive, and willingness to take calculated risks—that distinguish high performers and argues that true success comes from owning failures rather than making excuses.
Summary
In this Impact Theory episode, Sarah Robb O'Hagan shares her unconventional path to executive success, characterized by getting fired multiple times and learning to view failure as fuel rather than terminal. She grew up in New Zealand, a country with progressive views on gender equality, which she credits with shaping her confidence to compete without seeing herself as a "female executive" but simply as the best executive. Her early career included being fired from Virgin Megastores after becoming arrogant following early successes at Virgin Atlantic, an experience that taught her the value of humility.
O'Hagan emphasizes that success comes from "stepping out of line"—recognizing opportunities no one else sees and having the courage to act on them, as demonstrated when she created a marketing plan for Air New Zealand after being rejected initially, and later submitted unsolicited strategic work at Virgin. These actions, she argues, were effective because they brought genuine value rather than seeking credit.
She developed a framework for identifying high performers, studied through interviews with 25 diverse achievers (from Olympic skier Bodie Miller to White House chef Sam Cass) for her book "Extreme You." Common traits include resilience, openness to new experiences, humility, and personal drive. She created a quiz with psychologist Adam Grant measuring "arseness levels"—whether people are kicking ass, half-assing, or not assing at all.
A critical insight is that vulnerability in acknowledging failures—rather than making excuses—paradoxically strengthens career prospects. She describes learning to tell potential employers directly why she was fired, which created openness rather than suspicion. She also stresses that leaders must demonstrate their values consistently through actions and vulnerability, creating psychological safety for teams to make mistakes.
O'Hagan argues against the "please the boss" mentality, noting that executives actually want employees to solve problems and bring their own ideas rather than guess what leadership wants. She advocates for "the mountain has to be yours"—the concept that people need intrinsic motivation tied to their own dreams, not others' expectations, to fight hard enough for success.
In her current role leading Flywheel (a boutique cycling company) and a tech startup spinoff, she focuses on getting out of her comfort zone and pushing employees to achieve beyond their perceived limits while maintaining her support. She believes the "canyon of despair" after failure is where real learning occurs, and people who navigate it emerge with the intestinal fortitude necessary for true leadership challenges.
About this episode
<p>It is one thing to be the toughest woman in the room and it is entirely another thing to be the toughest person in the room. When you allow yourself to be haunted by past fears and failures you put yourself at a disadvantage and lock your potential away in the safety of a box.</p><p>In this episode today, one of the toughest and most resilient people you will ever come across joins Tom to share her insight on what it takes to beat the odds and kick ass, failure after failure. Lupita Nyong’o said, “It’s only when you risk failure that you discover things. When you play it safe, you’re not expressing the utmost of your human experience.” The essence of being a total badass, owning your failure and swinging hard to conquer no one but yourself is what Sarah Robb O’Hagan brings to the table.</p><p>Get ready to take action, it’s the only way forward.</p><p><br /></p><p><strong>FOLLOW SARAH:</strong></p><p>Website: https://extremeyou.com/</p><p>Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/ExtremeSRO" target="_blank">https://twitter.com/ExtremeSRO</a></p><p>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/ExtremeSarah/" target="_blank">https://www.facebook.com/ExtremeSarah/</a></p><p>LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-robb-o-hagan-249130" target="_blank">https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-robb-o-hagan-249130</a></p><p>Youtube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC47oni1fY5azI3qOnFm_tSQ" target="_blank">https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC47oni1fY5azI3qOnFm_tSQ</a></p><p><br /></p><p>SPONSORS:</p><p>Get 5 free AG1 Travel Packs and a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D with your first purchase at <a href="https://bit.ly/AG1Impact" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/AG1Impact</a>.</p><p>Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at <a href="https://bit.ly/ShopifyImpact" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/ShopifyImpact</a> and supercharge your business!</p><p>Get FREE GROUND BEEF FOR LIFE plus $20 off your first box at <a href="https://bit.ly/ButcherBoxImpact" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/ButcherBoxImpact</a>.</p><p>Get 55% off at <a href="https://bit.ly/BabbelImpact" target="_blank">https://bit.ly/BabbelImpact</a> and learn a new language today!</p><p><br /></p><p><strong><em>Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?</em></strong></p><p>If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.</p><p>This is not for the faint of heart. 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Key Insights
- O'Hagan argues that becoming arrogant after early success (such as at Virgin Atlantic) leads directly to failure, and that repeated failures ultimately teach the humility necessary for sustained achievement.
- She claims that vulnerability in job interviews—directly acknowledging why one was fired rather than making excuses—paradoxically creates more trust and openness in conversations than defensive explanations.
- O'Hagan asserts that high performers share common behavioral traits including openness to new experiences, humility, personal drive, and resilience, which she validated through interviews with 25 diverse successful individuals across different fields.
- She contends that employees should focus on solving business problems and bringing their own ideas rather than trying to please executives, because this approach leads to harder work and better results than conforming to perceived expectations.
- O'Hagan believes that "the mountain has to be yours"—meaning people only fight hard enough for goals that align with their own intrinsic motivation and dreams, not those imposed by parents, bosses, or society.
- She argues that the psychological experience of being in the "canyon of despair" after failure is essential for developing the intestinal fortitude required for serious leadership challenges.
- O'Hagan states that people raised with protective parenting and participation trophies often lack the skills to recognize and seize opportunities, unlike previous generations who had to overcome harder obstacles.
- She claims that growing up in a culture (New Zealand) with historical gender equality shaped her confidence to compete as an executive without limiting self-perception to being a "female executive."
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