Ed Mylett: The One Habit, One Belief & One Day That Could Change Everything (Fan Fav)
Ed Mylett discusses his book 'The Power of One More,' emphasizing how doing one additional rep, contact, or act beyond your commitment builds superhuman self-confidence and changes your life trajectory. He shares how redefining time into multiple 6-hour 'days' per day, pursuing discomfort intentionally, and anchoring peak emotional states to physical triggers enable extraordinary transformation.
Summary
Ed Mylett appears on Tom's show to discuss 'The Power of One More,' his framework for personal and professional transformation. The core concept is simple: consistently doing one more than you commit to—one more repetition, one more phone call, one more expression of love—mathematically compounds to create a different standard of living and rebuild self-confidence through kept promises to yourself.
Mylett emphasizes that self-confidence is built by keeping promises you make to yourself, and that while we achieve about 25% of our goals, we always ultimately achieve our standards. By raising your standard to include 'one more,' you change not just your outputs but who you become.
On the topic of extremity and discomfort, Mylett argues that expanding capacity requires pushing into the extreme and pursuing inconvenience deliberately. He challenges the popular idea of 'getting out of your comfort zone' as insufficient—instead, he advocates actively chasing discomfort because intuitively we know when we're settling and neglecting our potential. He notes this isn't just about individual success but about modeling for children that growth and pursuing potential matters.
Mylett discusses his physical transformation, losing 44 pounds in 90 days while writing the book, not for vanity but as a catalyst for internal change. He notes that transforming your body teaches you that you can change, which then transfers to belief in your ability to change your mind and circumstances.
A significant portion focuses on redefining time. Mylett challenges the 24-hour day as an antiquated concept from pre-electricity eras. He divides his days into three 6-hour blocks (6am-noon, noon-6pm, 6pm-midnight), creating 21 'days' per week and 91 per quarter. This compression makes each period more precious and valuable, increasing accountability and productivity while making the world respond to you as more scarce and valuable.
Mylett recounts a profound conversation with Wayne Dyer at age 28, where Dyer warned him against attaching his identity and worth to external abilities (skills, sales, performance) because these are fleeting. Instead, Dyer encouraged him to anchor confidence in intentions—the intent to serve, help, and make a difference—which never fluctuate. This became Mylett's foundational approach to building confidence.
On state change, Mylett explains how to create physical anchors linked to peak emotional states. By repeatedly pairing a heightened emotional state (joy, confidence, power) with a physical trigger (snapping fingers, a phrase, a gesture), you can reverse-engineer that state when needed. He cites examples of Tom Brady saying 'Let's go' and Peyton Manning saying 'Omaha' as state triggers that prime peak performance.
Mylett shares a story about his father's alcoholism and how, as a five-year-old, he developed the ability to read people's states and shift moods to keep his family safe. This early training made him perceptive but also set him on a path of over-giving and self-neglect in service of others. He's since learned to balance intense drive with self-compassion, realizing that pushing yourself relentlessly despite success may have happened 'in spite of' that approach rather than because of it.
A critical insight comes when Mylett realizes that the person who helped his father get sober—someone with their own struggles, shame, and setbacks—was the most qualified to help precisely because of those challenges, not despite them. This leads him to argue that people discount themselves for their past failures and shame, when these are often the exact qualifications that allow them to change others' lives at critical moments. He challenges listeners to stop carrying 'bags' of embarrassment and recognize their mess as their message.
Mylett also discusses the concept of 'the one'—the person in a family or generation who breaks cycles and changes the trajectory for everyone. He positions himself as 'the one' in his family and encourages listeners to consider they might be 'the one' in theirs, suggesting that believing you're not qualified might actually make you the perfect candidate.
On work and life integration, Mylett argues against the scarcity mindset that crushing it at work means you'll be a worse parent, or vice versa. He contends these are interconnected and that when you're energized and growing in one area, you bring that energy to others. His daughter's ambition in real estate and insurance exams while in college reflects his own work ethic transfer.
Mylett emphasizes equanimity—calmness under duress—as the separator between good and great performers. He cites a fighter who learned to access matrix time (slowed perception) under pressure by changing his state, resulting in a knockout victory in conditions where he'd previously lost.
Throughout, Mylett stresses that while talent and skills matter, intention and state management are more foundational. He advocates for intentional physical triggers, deliberate discomfort-seeking, time compression, and understanding that your greatest disqualifications are often your greatest qualifications for helping others.
About this episode
<p>This is a Fan Fav episode. Ed Mylett’s experience with his father isn’t the kind of experience people anticipate success to be on the other side of, yet he’s joining Tom for a second time to discuss the reason he wrote his new book, The Power of One More: The Ultimate Guide to Happiness and Success, following the loss of his father.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>If you’re in a place struggling with reaching your true potential, meeting you highest self, and achieving greater levels of success, Ed shares why getting on the other side of your day to day inconveniences is the best path forward.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>Change your relationship with pain and discomfort and stop allowing your shame and embarrassment to disqualify you from the life you were meant to live.</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 5-31-22</strong></p> <p><br /></p> <p>Pre-Order Ed Mylett’s new book, The Power of One More: <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Power-One-More-Ed-Mylett/dp/1119815363/" target="_blank">https://www.amazon.com/Power-One-More-Ed-Mylett/dp/1119815363/</a></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>SHOW NOTES:</strong></p> <p>0:00 | Introduction to Ed Mylett</p> <p>1:05 | The One Thing to Turn It All Around</p> <p>7:47 | Physical Transformation Is Life Changing</p> <p>17:33 | Success with Kindness & Humility</p> <p>23:44 | You’re Always One Away</p> <p>31:40 | How to Manipulate Time For Success</p> <p>36:32 | Appreciation for One More Day</p> <p>42:03 | Greatness In Work & Life</p> <p>48:46 | How to Create A Successful Life</p> <p>53:56 | Change Your Emotional State</p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>What's up, everybody?</strong> <strong>It's Tom Bilyeu here:</strong></p> <p>If you want my help...</p> <ul> <li>STARTING a business:<a href="https://tombilyeu.com/zero-to-founder?utm_campaign=Podcast%20Offer&utm_source=podca[%E2%80%A6]d%20end%20of%20show&utm_content=podcast%20ad%20end%20of%20show" target="_blank"> </a><a href="https://tombilyeu.com/zero-to-founder?utm_campaign=Podcast%20Offer&utm_source=podca[%E2%80%A6]d%20end%20of%20show&utm_content=podcast%20ad%20end%20of%20show" target="_blank">join me here at ZERO TO FOUNDER</a> </li> <li>SCALING a business:<a href="https://tombilyeu.com/call" target="_blank"><strong> </strong></a><a href="https://tombilyeu.com/call" target="_blank">see if you qualify here.</a> </li> </ul> <p>Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox:<a href="https://tombilyeu.com/" target="_blank"><strong> </strong></a><a href="https://tombilyeu.com/" target="_blank">sign up here.</a></p> <p>**********************************************************************</p> <p><strong>If you're serious about leveling up your life, I urge you to check out my new podcast,</strong><a href="https://open.spotify.com/show/47VE90Cittmo6TGGFqg2xf" target="_blank"> <strong>Tom Bilyeu’s Mindset Playbook</strong></a> —a goldmine of my most impactful episodes on mindset, business, and health. 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Key Insights
- Mylett argues that self-confidence is built by keeping promises you make to yourself, and that while people achieve about 25% of goals, they always achieve their standards—making raising your standard to include 'one more' the pathway to changing who you become.
- He claims that pursuing discomfort and inconvenience is a pathway to bliss because intuitively we know we're neglecting our potential when we settle, creating a cognitive dissonance that prevents simultaneous bliss and self-neglect.
- Mylett contends that compressing time into multiple 6-hour 'days' per week (creating 21 days per week instead of 7) increases scarcity and value of each period, making the world respond to you as more precious while yielding thousands more productive days over a lifetime.
- He argues that Wayne Dyer's insight—attaching worth to intention rather than external abilities—creates unshakeable confidence because intentions never fluctuate, while skills and results are fleeting and contextual.
- Mylett claims that creating physical anchors linked to peak emotional states allows you to reverse-engineer those states on demand, enabling access to your best self under pressure rather than being hijacked by default emotional patterns.
- He observes that the person most qualified to help someone often has the very shame, setbacks, and failures they believe disqualify them, making past mess the actual qualification for changing another person's life at critical moments.
- Mylett contends that 'the one'—the person who breaks family cycles—likely exists in every family lineage, and that believing you're unqualified may actually make you the perfect candidate because you won't rely on external validation.
- He argues that work and personal life are interconnected rather than scarce, and that crushing it in one area energizes performance in others through elevated vibrational frequency and emotional state transfer across life domains.
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Transcript
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