Medical Whistleblower: What Your Doctor Doesn’t Know Is Hurting You | Dr Rachel Rubin
Dr. Rachel Rubin emphasizes the importance of understanding women's sexual health, hormones, and effective communication in relationships to combat issues such as painful sex and low libido. The discussion highlights the need for better education and advocacy in women's health, as many women lack access to crucial information about their bodies.
Summary
In the podcast, Dr. Rachel Rubin discusses critical issues surrounding women's health, particularly focusing on sexual health and the misconceptions that women often have about their bodies and sexuality. She expresses her frustration with the lack of education regarding the anatomy and physiology of female sexual arousal, which leads to many women believing they are 'broken' due to their difficulties in reaching orgasm. Dr. Rubin highlights how the male-centric view of sexual health often overlooks vital aspects of women's biology, such as the clitoris and hormonal changes throughout life stages, including menopause.
The conversation delves into how societal pressures and the emphasis on aesthetics can negatively impact women's sexual experiences and overall well-being. She notes that many affluent women, including public figures such as Melinda Gates and Oprah, have struggled to receive appropriate hormonal treatment, underscoring that the issue is widespread regardless of socioeconomic status.
Dr. Rubin advocates for improved communication between partners regarding sexual health and desires, suggesting that many conflicts arise from a lack of understanding and the high emotional stakes involved in discussions about sex. She encourages proactive conversations about individual needs and preferences during intimacy, stating that relationships can thrive when both parties feel supported and understood. The podcast articulates the necessity of making sex education more comprehensive, centering women's experiences, and empowering them to advocate for their health and happiness.
About this episode
Women’s sex lives are being quietly destroyed, and their doctors don’t even know it… Sexual medicine specialist Dr Rachel Rubin reveals the hidden hormone crisis, how prescription drugs can impact sex, and the treatments most doctors aren't prescribing like Hormone Replacement Therapy. Dr Rachel Rubin is a board-certified urologist and sexual medicine specialist, and one of only 80 doctors in the US trained to treat both male and female sexual health. She recently played a pivotal role in the removal of the FDA's boxed warning on menopausal hormone therapy - one of the most significant healthcare policy changes affecting midlife women in decades. She is also the Founder of Rachel Rubin MD and Director-at-Large of the International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health. She explains: ◼️ Why most doctors fail women on sexual health, and how to build a team that won't ◼️ Why menopause is a whole-body hormone event, and the treatments that actually help ◼️ The physical barrier blocking orgasm in 1 in 4 women, and how to fix it ◼️ How a tight pelvic floor could be ruining your sex life ◼️ Why your sexual pain and low libido are physical problems your doctor keeps missing Chapters 00:00:00 Why Women's Healthcare Is Still Neglected 00:04:17 If Men Had These Symptoms, Would Medicine Be Better? 00:07:02 Why Even Gynaecologists Misunderstand The Clitoris 00:08:03 What You'll Learn From This Conversation 00:11:07 The Question Women Ask Most 00:11:32 Why Testosterone Matters For Women 00:13:41 How Birth Control Can Kill Libido 00:16:25 How GLP-1s And Antidepressants Affect Sex Drive 00:18:26 Should Women Take Testosterone? 00:19:30 Understanding The Menstrual Cycle 00:23:11 Why Perimenopause Starts Earlier Than You Think 00:25:19 What Is HRT And How Does It Work? 00:26:01 Does Estrogen Increase Cancer Risk? 00:27:27 Why HRT Got A Bad Reputation 00:29:24 The 4 Types Of HRT Explained 00:31:19 What Really Causes UTIs? 00:33:22 Vaginal Hormones Explained 00:37:19 Does Cranberry Juice Actually Help UTIs? 00:38:31 When Should You Start HRT? 00:40:36 A HRT Success Story 00:44:43 Ads 00:46:47 Is Pain During Sex Normal? 00:49:28 How To Have Better Sex 00:51:54 What Your Pelvic Floor Actually Does 00:53:48 Signs You Have Pelvic Floor Problems 00:55:24 Is It Normal Not To Orgasm? 00:57:30 What Is A Clitoral Adhesion? 00:58:55 How Sex Toys Can Improve Intimacy 01:00:07 What Men Get Wrong About Arousal 01:01:57 What Happens To Women After Orgasm? 01:02:55 Do Women Get Anything From Penetrative Sex? 01:04:40 How Porn Changed Our Expectations 01:06:58 What Healthy Porn Looks Like 01:08:12 How Porn Can Damage Relationships 01:10:12 Ads 01:12:21 Why You Should Change Up Your Sex Life 01:13:35 Why We Hide Our Sexual Struggles 01:17:17 Responsive Vs Spontaneous Desire Explained 01:19:58 The Question Every Couple Should Ask 01:20:51 What If You Want Different Things In Bed? 01:23:10 How To Tell Your Partner About Kinks 01:24:28 The Secrets People Hide From Their Partners 01:25:42 How To Tell If She's Faking Orgasms 01:27:46 How Stress And Dopamine Influence Libido 01:29:33 Should Sex Be Scheduled Or Spontaneous? 01:31:24 How Self-Esteem Affects Sex 01:33:04 The Most Important Thing We Missed 01:35:06 Better Communication, Better Sex 01:42:51 Why This Work Matters So Much 01:43:57 What Needs To Change In Your Own Life? Independent Research: https://stevenbartlett.com/wp-content/uploads/2026/06/DOAC-Rachel-Rubin-Independent-Research-Further-Reading.pdf Follow Dr Rachel: Instagram - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/AYkgAOV YouTube - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/1TQZeri X - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/FxZbK5x Website - https://link.thediaryofaceo.com/4ZKqH2l The Diary Of A CEO: ◼ Join DOAC circle here - https://doaccircle.com/ ◼ Buy The Diary Of A CEO book here - https://smarturl.it/DOACbook ◼ The 1% Diary is back - limited time only: https://bit.ly/3YFbJbt ◼ The Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards: https://linkly.link/2hm7r ◼ Get email updates - https://bit.ly/diary-of-a-ceo-yt ◼ Follow Steven - https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Sponsors: HeyGen - https://heygen.com/DOAC Flightcast - Check out https://www.flightcast.com/DOAC6 Ketone - Go to https://ketone.com/steven to enter to win! no purchase necessary, terms and conditions apply.
Key Insights
- Dr. Rachel Rubin argues that many women believe they are 'broken' due to difficulties in reaching orgasm, stemming from a lack of education about their bodies.
- The speaker highlights that the word 'clitoris' is not included in the OBGYN training checklist, reflecting the minimal education on women's anatomy.
- She points out that over 75% of women do not receive appropriate prescriptions for hormonal therapy, leading to significant health and quality of life issues.
- Dr. Rubin discusses how societal expectations around women's bodies can lead to body image issues that adversely affect sexual relationships.
- She explains that ejaculation and orgasm rates differ significantly between men and women, often leaving women dissatisfied with sexual encounters.
- The podcast emphasizes the importance of curiosity and communication between partners regarding their sexual preferences and experiences.
- Dr. Rubin shares that women often experience a decline in testosterone levels starting in their 30s, which impacts libido and sexual health.
- She argues that vaginal hormones can prevent urinary tract infections and improve sexual health, yet many doctors aren't prescribing them.
- Dr. Rubin calls attention to the misconception that libido and sexual health should not be discussed openly in relationships, emphasizing the need for honest communication.
- The speaker showcases the devastating effects of misunderstanding or misrepresenting hormonal therapy's impact on women's health across various society levels.
- She argues that sexual health is essential and needs to be integrated into holistic medical education to better serve women.
- Dr. Rubin notes the challenges men face in appreciating the different pathways of sexual arousal for women compared to their own experiences.
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