A LIFE OF COLORS | Nico Brown | TEDxBillings Youth
Fifteen-year-old Nico Brown, a transgender teen from Montana, delivers a TEDx talk about his identity, the legislative attacks on transgender rights, and the bullying he endured in school. He uses the metaphor of colors to argue that difference is not inherently bad. He calls on his audience to extend greater compassion to people who are different from them.
Summary
Nico Brown, a 15-year-old transgender boy from Montana, opens his TEDx talk by introducing himself as a multifaceted person — a baker, fashion designer, vocalist, and reader — before acknowledging that most people likely just see a transgender teenager. He contextualizes his talk by referencing the trans flag and recent legislative attacks on transgender people, including Kansas bill SB244, which invalidates transgender driver's licenses, and federal bill HB7981, which would defund schools employing counselors who assist with gender-related issues.
Nico then shares his personal story, explaining that he was assigned female at birth and named Madeline, but realized in fourth or fifth grade that he wanted to live as who he truly was — male. He gradually came out to friends, teachers, and eventually his parents. His quest and music teachers immediately affirmed his name the very next day, which he describes as euphoric. He still feels joy when strangers instinctively perceive him as male.
The bulk of the talk focuses on the pain that accompanies being transgender. Nico describes growing up in Montana, a culturally conservative environment, and recounts enduring hundreds of insults, degradations, and encouragements to end his life. He uses a color analogy to help the audience empathize: he asks everyone to imagine being hated simply for their favorite color, in order to convey the arbitrary and cruel nature of transphobic bullying.
Nico shares a specific memory from middle school in which a male peer approached him in class and asked him out as a joke — using his deadname — while others laughed. This scenario repeated weekly for a year and periodically afterward. He describes staying calm externally, saying 'No, thank you' and returning to his book, while feeling internally devastated. He also reflects on the pain of social exclusion from popular peer groups and the innate human sensitivity to difference, even when the reason for that difference is not understood.
He concludes by reframing modern bullying as something often disguised as friendliness — persistent, invasive pestering rather than overt aggression. He apologizes to those experiencing this and closes with a plea for the audience to carry more love in their hearts for all people who are different, tying it back to his colors metaphor: 'Colors make our world unique, no matter what pattern they're in.'
About this episode
This talk is about what life is like when you're different in ways beneath the surface, and Nico's personal experiences with people who don't enjoy the person he was meant to be. Niko is a 15 year old Freshman in High School. He is an officer within the FCCLA, being in charge of publicity and social media. He has been in choir since 5th grade, and currently is a 1st Soprano in Skyview’s Chantrelle’s choir class. This young man has a passion for everything musical and/or theater. Niko is headed for a culinary degree in college, while still hoping to advance within the performing arts. He is usually found in the library or FCS department at school, surrounded by his group of friends. Peers and teachers would describe him as “Determined, outgoing, autistically awesomesauce, and with high expectations for himself. Though he has and continues to struggle with mental health, he remains devoted to his relationships and plans for the future. His pastimes include baking, soccer, reading, music, fashion, video games, and tending to his cats. Niko is also a strong supporter of 406 Pride and LGBTQ causes, actively assisting in event planning for Rainbow Coffee House. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at https://www.ted.com/tedx
Key Insights
- Nico argues that hate for a group of people is not a natural instinct but is taught, beginning innocently with questions like 'Why? How? When?' before escalating into cruelty.
- Nico states that he was insulted, degraded, or told to end his life well over hundreds of times due to his transgender identity, having grown up in conservative Montana.
- Nico recounts that his quest and music teachers began calling him by his preferred name the very next day after he came out to them, describing the experience of being seen as male for the first time as euphoric.
- Nico argues that modern-day bullying is often disguised as friendliness — relentless, invasive pestering — rather than overt hostility, making it harder to identify and address.
- Nico observes that children have a strong innate sense of when someone is different, even when they cannot articulate why, and that this awareness often precedes bullying behavior.
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Transcript
[0:07] [music] [applause] >> My existence is considered wrong. My name is Nico Brown. I've gone through several names within my 15 years of living, but I've remained the same person underneath. I'm a baker, I'm a fashion designer, I'm a vocalist, I'm a reader, and I'm so much more. But when you look at me, you might not see that. You probably just see some weirdo [0:38] teenager standing up on the stage in a suit, which is fair. I am a weirdo teenager standing up on the stage in a suit. But that's not the only thing about me. If you look behind me, you'll see the trans flag. The trans flag is a flag for people who…
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