There's a 6th Stage of Grief
David Kessler, a recognized grief expert, emphasizes the importance of witnessing grief and introduces a sixth stage of grief to help individuals cope with loss. He argues that managing change is crucial for happiness and healing.
Summary
In this discussion, grief expert David Kessler highlights the significance of grief as a transformative experience. He asserts that individuals who handle change effectively tend to be happier, stressing that getting stuck in feelings related to loss can hinder one's ability to heal. Kessler explains that grief must be witnessed, meaning that it is essential for individuals experiencing grief to have their feelings acknowledged by others. This acknowledgment helps validate their pain and love for what was lost. Kessler notably mentions the well-known five stages of grief and introduces a sixth stage, which he will elaborate on later in the transcript. The conversation underlines the importance of support from others in the grieving process and contrasts the struggles of those unable to move past their grief.
Key Insights
- David Kessler states that grieving well leads to living well, emphasizing that the ability to manage change correlates with happiness in life.
- Kessler argues that individuals who get stuck in grief, such as after a breakup or job loss, are unlikely to do well in life.
- He explains that grief must be witnessed, meaning that having one's pain recognized by others is crucial for healing.
- Kessler highlights the necessity of another person acknowledging one's grief, stating that it validates both pain and attachment.
- He acknowledges the existing concept of five stages of grief while indicating that he has added a sixth stage, which will be discussed further.
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Transcript
[0:00] If you grieve well, you live [music] well. >> Mhm. >> Grief is about change. Those of us who can manage change well actually are happier in life. >> Mhm. >> If you get stuck in the breakup, the job loss, whatever it is, you're not going to do well. >> He's one of the world's foremost [music] grief experts and best-selling author who has helped millions of people learn how to heal [music] after loss. Please welcome David Kessler. >> Grief must be witnessed. >> What does [music] that mean? >> It means if you are in grief, you need [0:30] another to go, that job meant [music] a lot. I'm so sorry that happened to you. >>…
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